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From Pip's son: Ilya Alexander Rueven Lehrman

Proactive Vs. Reactive

Autobiographical Incident Essay

When I was about 4 or 5 years old I under went a bunch of Dow-tai chi classes in which they taught me to follow the nature of proactive thought patterns. I did my best to follow this method for most of my life.

The ironic thing is my mom can be a very reactive individual leaving me often times copying her reactive nature. This not only got me into more trouble but also left me aggravated at why the reactive thoughts that I was following were so contradictory to the proactive thoughts I had been taught. I in fact was left confused to the point of deep depression for about 7 years.

When I finally decided I didn’t like being depressed any more and told my mom I wanted to try the pharmaceutical drugs that I saw prescribed to my friends and family for the exact problem I was having, she flipped and did her best for 3 years to convince me other wise.

This all the while confused me even more since I was (in my eyes) trying to help myself so I reacted in the only proactive way I thought possible I ran away from home (asking my mom for a ride to my destination and upon arriving convincing her with my friends moms help to let me move into my friends house for a couple of months) until she would allow me to take the medication. She finally agreed and during the period on them I had 3 major experiences that convinced me all I needed was to follow proactive thoughts the whole time and all the time to have a non-regrettable life.

First off let’s break down the meanings of proactive and reactive. Proactive is a physical or verbal reaction that is mirroring and often one or two steps ahead in perfect accordance to an offensive reaction. Reactive is a physical or verbal reaction that has no necessary accordance or relativity to an offensive action.

Here is an example of a ridiculous almost humorous reactive moment I had on the medication. One time I woke up in a very abrupt state due to my dreams being more realistic then usual. So I jump up to the sound of my alarm clock and in the process of turning it off I knock over a cup of ginger ale from the night before which ended up spilling into an area inhabited by a lot of very important anti-liquid objects.

Upon realization of my mess I slightly freaked and shot my hand to do something but I was moving to fast to actually know what I was trying to accomplish. I ended up knocking all the stuff off the shelf and from there my quick and drastic behavior led to the trashing of my room.

The next example would be the time my friend told me she was feeling suicidal right after she had gotten a hold of my knife (this was back when I used to carry a knife).

She then proceeded to place the blade to her wrist and started to apply pressure. Me assuming she is being melodramatic as usual start to mess around using my (what is often considered dark) humor.

I reply with, “listen I don’t mind you killing yourself but could you use a different knife”, I stick out my hand for it back “phump” into my hand it goes.

My last example goes to the time I was at a friend’s 18^th Birthday party in Oakland and he just received his own very first dessert eagle handgun.

Everyone circles around to watch him fire off his first couple of practice shots with the new thing. As he lines up the shot I can see he is lining it up improperly he was placing the gun in a position where the gun is too close to his face and his arm is not physically prepared for the kickback.

I see this and I know what can happen but for some reason I'm waiting for someone else to stop him or tell him. No one does, I look around and yell something but of course I’m ignored.

So I just watch as he pulls the trigger, as the gun kicks back, as the hammer hits him square in the nose and as he finally fell to the ground. It wasn’t till his body hit the ground and his mom screamed that I snapped to it and ran to stop him from firing it.

You see when I woke up if I had just moved slow and steady I would have seen that the cup spilt onto a pile of Kleenex and napkins from when I was sick which soaked up the whole mess in the first place.

If I had taken her seriously and tried to actually convince her that killing yourself is a waste of time I wouldn’t have this scar in my hand. And if I hadn’t paused and I had just ran over I could have shown him proper gun positioning and he would probably still be alive.

The moral whether you move to fast or choke to often calmly and proactively responding to a situation is the only one you won’t regret.

Ilya can be contacted: alex lehrman demonfriendprod@yahoo.com

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